Hi ladies! Are you in a long term relationship and thinking about finally moving in with your boyfriend? You must be really excited! And you should! But before you do that, make sure you have really taken the time to think this through!
Moving in is not just happiness and rainbows.. Things are bound to change after some time..
You were probably thinking that you need to be able to wake up every day next to the person you love.. That’s mainly the whole idea right? That’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think about living with your other half! But there is so much more to that…
So before you take this huge step forward, and dive into adulthood, here are a few stuff that you should consider!
1.Are you financially able to do this?
Do you work? Have you saved up money? Are you going to be able to pay rent every month or are you going to rely on your parents for that?
Make sure you have this figured out before doing anything, because having your own place, even if you share it with your boyfriend, means having expenses that you NEED to handle on your own!
2.Is this your first time moving out of home?
If you’re thinking that you are finally going to be able to go out every night without anyone worrying about you, then you’re probably doing it for the wrong reasons.
3.Are you used to spending time alone with him?
Are you at the beginning of your relationship? Have you been together a couple of months (hence still in honeymoon period) or a few years? Did you ever spend more than two days straight alone with him? Did you go on holidays with him?
Did it go well? You should be prepared for this..
Moving in is not temporary, or at least it’s not supposed to be. It’s better if you have already seen him in both his ups and downs, and think that you’re able to handle both situations.
4.Do you have fun together?
It’s important for you to be able to spend days and nights with your partner, without thinking that you would prefer being somewhere else.
If you enjoy each other’s company, even if you’re not doing something very exciting, then things will run much smoother!
5.Do you fight often?
Are you in an On and Off relationship? If you are…moving in is not a fix up! Instead, you will probably make things worse..
6.Do you want the same things in life?
7.Are you ready to “create” your new home?
Either way… are you ready to take care of it? Are you ready for cleaning, laundry, cooking and everything that your new home will require, or do you think that this will magically be taken care of on its own?..
8.Are you ready for the routine?
You’re supposed to be yourself and feel at home, so is he! Are you comfortable with that?
If you have already asked yourself these questions, and think that your relationship really is ready for this important next step, then go ahead and do it! It’s an exciting time and a great test for both of you!